How To Set Humble Goals

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It is that time of the year when I sit myself down to write modest goals. My life is simply made up of four sections, so it was relatively easy to set expectations for those departments in my head. Here are my three tips to set modest goals.

Set goals that can grow yourself as a human being, and not necessarily to impress anyone. I made one too many mistakes with the latter one, and up until this day, those goals did not mean anything to me. Set goals that can make you better than the year before. With this approach, the satisfaction of achieving those goals will be much rewarding.

Align your goals to create value for yourself and others, and not forgetting to build meaningful relationships with them. You will grow way much more along the way and opportunities will soon follow.

Last but not least, celebrate your goals when you have achieved them. Take the opportunity to host a dinner to honor your goals with others, or get someone a gift to tell them that you are happy that you have achieved your goals. Goals are not meant to be chores. They are meant to be fun and personally challenging - so celebrate them whenever you can.

Starting My Journey As A Triathlete

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It is 6.00 am and crunching time starts now to whip my body into shape. I have always been running, cycling, and occasionally swimming ever since I was in primary school. I will not forget the first time I was taught to ride a bike by my dad. I found out that you can still ride a bike on 2 wheels even though you had 4 to begin with. I later found out that you can do the same with one wheel.

Swimming did not come easy and figuring out a way to submerge my head below water did not come naturally until my best friend asked me to squeeze my nose, hold my breath and squat under water. Nerve-wracking but highly effective on that very day. I was soon floating underwater and all I had to do was to start kicking.

Running came very naturally to me. I joined many sports-day events but I was never able to win the goal medals, just because my best friend was the fastest in school. Like Hussein Bolt in the flesh, I was left with one or two bronze while his neck was adorned with multiple gold medals and a trophy as the icing. Envy was injected into my bloodstream.

Connecting the dots back to these 3 disciplines and putting them together just screams triathlon for me. What a great challenge to take up. I have heard of many heart-moving stories of triathletes who were once a convict, an addict, and even disabled. Yet, they all took up the IronMan to overcome their challenges in life. That is magic for me and it does not come overnight. You have to be on your journey and train hard for it.

Training for a marathon or a jamboree on its own is pretty straightforward, but what if you have to train for all three disciplines? How do you bring running, swimming and cycling together up to a standard where you can finish the Ironman race?

How To Optimize Your Day With A G-Shock Watch

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There is always a shortage of time for us to do it all in a day. Time seems to drift through us and before you know it, Sunday comes by to make you feel anxious about Monday. You look back and you wonder how you have gotten by the weekend and not do much.

Like money, our time has a way of slipping through our fingers, only if it is not managed or at least monitored briefly. The seconds will start to turn into minutes and the minutes will eventually turn into hours. These days, 30 minutes will rocket by us in a blink. Now, how do I manage time to get more out of it?

I usually manage my days in units of 25 minutes each. For example, if I plan to clean up my house, I would set my timer to 1 unit and work within it. If I am planning to head to the gym, I would then set my timer to 2 units. Notice that I chose 25 minutes, the next 5 minutes is my break time before the next activity starts.

Now you can get a digital kitchen timer from Daiso for a very low price. You can also use your smartphone, although I am highly against using it because of the distractions like alerts and YouTube. The most effective tool that I have been using so far is my trusted G-Shock watch that has a built-in timer. It goes with me everywhere and makes sure I clock in those units.

How I Run My Day

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My daily wake up starts off the way I try to have it, fresh and challenging. I don't get the same kind of morning every day, especially the way I planned it, but it does challenge me to work hard for it.

A good wasted morning is when one wakes up to dwell too much in the past and future. I understand you can't change the past and we are poor predictors of our future. Does it 'entirely' matter at the end of the day? We all know that life has a way of throwing us a curve ball once in a while. For example, you got that promotion you have been waiting and planning for. Happy with the pay raise, life soon breaks the news that your family is suffering from a critical illness and that you have to relook into your life savings to finance the medical bills. Reflecting on this, I tend to guide myself to live often in the now. It starts with how I begin and end my day.

The morning. I wake up early to meditate and refocus my mind on the now and to remind myself who I really am; free of the influences and distractions of others. The areas I usually focus on are mindfulness thoughts related to my personal values, family and close friends, professional life, personal life and health. Once that all comes to me, I will whip out my journal to pour my ideas into it. The journal is a good reflection point for me and it is where I usually kick-start my writings.

The evening. The most sacred time of my day when I spend the last hours of it with my family. I will pick up a book once they have fallen asleep. It could be any book as long as I am reading something. After the reading is done, I will then proceed to turn on my calming music, switch on the defuser that percolates an orange scent into the air, and without further delay, start my night meditation to reflect on my day with gratitude.

The App Of All Apps

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There rarely comes an App that has the ability to change the way we live our lives. Of course, we have all been changed one way or another by the sensational likes of Whatsapp, Instagram and Facebook; all of which, if used irresponsibly, will have a negative impact and outcomes to our lives.

I recently stumbled upon another App that I have since been using daily and I have found it to be more beneficial to my life than anything else I have used before, not forgetting Spotify. I am talking about a blissful App that goes by the name 'Calm'. Within it contains wonderful doses of meditation guides, masterclasses on various well-being topics and endless calming music to soothe your soul. They also have videos to teach you how to be healthy and physically energised.

Without a doubt, this is the only app that has profoundly changed me and showcases the honesty to focus on my well-being. It is a 7 day trial with limited access to its content. Give a try and let me know what you think.

Money Is Not Everything

My mom used to tell me that money is everything, especially when I was looking for the right job. For her, money is the defining factor for everything as it sets the precedence to a well-lived life. I shrugged off that notion quickly and never held back my desires to correct her.

More than 10 years later, I have to admit that I am absolutely wrong and I may have to add that my mom was not entirely clear with me. It was only recently when I shared my idea of money that she finally believes that I got it. I could see a gleam of happiness on her face.

After developing my own business, worked with teams, finance projects, and started a family, I have now come to a new conclusion about money and its place in our lives. Let me clarify what my mom meant - Money is not everything, Money is subtly everything, as it is intertwined in every part of our lives.

You Are The Brush

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I was recently asked to share my experience working with people within the entrepreneurship community and how I was successful in rallying people from different backgrounds to work together towards a common goal. When I first heard the question, I wondered - is this what I naturally do on a daily basis? I thought it was normal pulling people to work on something new together.

To help my interviewer envisioned my thoughts better, I gave her a metaphor of the brush and a palate of watercolours to represent my life. I see the people around me as colours, with their own different shades of characters and attributes. What I consider my life to be is an example of an empty canvas, where I use it to paint what I want to see in the world, therefore I am the brush. My purpose as the brush is to place the different colours on the different parts of the canvas to paint a picture that I want. It is that simple and I have never once thought twice about it until recently.

Conforming Is Less Free

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We are subconsciously wired to compare ourselves to those around us, even to the point of being unfair to the very uniqueness of our individuality. We are all unique in our own way, and having others pressure us to live up to society's expectations will only make us less free. I met someone recently and he thought me to not be afraid of being true to myself, that who I am should actually be celebrated and not be compared to anyone else. With his guidance, I now wonder, why are we so obsess to conform to the norm when we can be so much more by just being ourselves.