Let's face it, we are all human, and we live our days with some form of mild stress and anxiety, sometimes due to our own uncertainty about the future and how it is going to support the next generation. We are also overwhelmed by the endless expectations of others. You are not alone, and everyone on this planet faces the same streams of emotions from time to time. The good thing is that there are proven methods to make our lives easier and enjoyable, starting with three simple ideas.
Firstly, we are not perfect in any way. If we were born perfect, then we wouldn't need to grow physically and mentally. Science has shown that we are made up of imperfect cells, I guess in this case, cancer cells speaks for itself? How about the many mistakes that we make every single and fail to acknowledge them, not mentioning the decisions that some leaders have made in the past that led humanity towards the darkest corner of our human imagination. Our mind wants us to believe that we are perfect in the eyes of others, but that reality mismatch often causes us a great deal of disappointment and anxiety when we are again reminded that we are not. It is okay to make mistakes and be imperfect as a human being, as long as you learn from them and move on. Like how Conrad Hall puts it, "There is a kind of beauty in imperfection."
Secondly, best to let the critics be. Criticism from others will always be around the corner to bring us down, and that should not be the case. It is essential to understand that criticism, whether it being constructive or not, has its benefits to help us grow, but we must also be thoughtful about who is giving it. People have their motifs and are often emotionally driven. Also, to do great things in life, you will need to challenge the status quo and push yourself into the unknown. Challenging others and their ideas will sometimes come through as bad, but it is always important to be true to yourself, to serve and live a life of principles and integrity.
Thirdly, simple living by doing less helps us to refocus and smell the flowers. There are so much disruption and distractions in our lives today that it is getting harder for us to focus on what is important, to live an abundant life with the people you care most about. There is wisdom in the saying that 'less is more', by Mies van der Roh, a well-celebrated architect and one of the Bauhaus director. The idea is to simplify your life so you can focus more on the essentials and to live a whole-full one.
Constructive and Unconstructive Criticism: How to handle and benefit from both - Such A Voice (no date). Available at: https://www.suchavoice.com/2016/11/23/constructive-unconstructive-criticism-handle-benefit/ (Accessed: 13 May 2019).
Richard Ong is the author of Mindsets and Core Purpose. He now devotes his time to helping others develop new ideas and projects for the future. He is also a business coach and keynote speaker, with multiple IBM Bravo and Performance awards. He was met by Prince Charles to discuss his entrepreneurial efforts in Malaysia. Richard has been featured on BFM and Sunway. Visit roptcreate.com to learn more and to connect with him.