“With the caveat that I am still trying to figure things out, here are some advice that I have found useful over the years. I believe that if you practice them religiously, you will soon become a person of value with endless potential to create change.”
Create Value For Others
Your growth and personal value will increase as you create value for others. If we are always looking out for our self-serving needs, our world shrinks. I encourage you to think about what value you can bring to your country, company, family and community today. When you become valuable, the world will reward you in return.
2. Build Meaningful Relationships
Our lives are built on meaningful relationships. We have since adopted this ancient survival skill from our cave man ancestors to stay away from harm and it is still an important skill for us today. Meaningful relationships allows us to be of value to others and to help us feel relevant. Just think about all your memorable memories and you will find that there is always someone there to share it with you. Relationships are not only between two individuals. Businesses and teams are also built on relationships to create value for others. Focus on building meaningful relationships today and you will create more opportunities for yourself and others.
3. Uphold Your Personal Values
Having your own personal values will give you a tremendous amount of clarity and focus to make the right decisions in life. We will be challenged to step out of our comfort zone to create change and it is always good to cross check your actions against your own personal values before making a decision. Values are also what you stand for to maintain your integrity. In today's world, your integrity is priceless and once it is lost, it is hard to earn it back. Maintain your integrity by upholding your values and people will respect you for it. My set of values are to be kind, be brave and always speak the truth. What is yours?
4. Do What You Say Every Time
Your spoken word carries a lot of weight and everyone around us are constantly observing whether or not we act on what we say. If we go against our word, not only our integrity is lost but we are also cultivating the inability to move forward. A leader once told me that everyone will always end up delivering two 'R' when they want to create change. The first 'R' is 'Results' and if they cannot deliver that, they will always give 'Reasons' in return. You want to be the one to always deliver 'Results'. Action speaks louder than words. Less talk and more doing.
5. Run Towards Your Fears And Embrace Change
There has never been anything good that comes out from being in your own comfort zone. When you are in your comfort zone, you are not growing personally, and there are practically no opportunities to create more value. An ASEAN technology leader shared with me once that we should always do the things that scare us because that is where we will grow the fastest. Work that we fear is really the kind of work worth doing. I challenged you to continually pursue the type of challenges and work that often scares you. Good always comes out from it.
6. Keep Things Simple
From our electronic devices to the advertisements we see on television, we are now finding it even harder to stay focused at work. Being focused is starting to feel like a luxury. What we can do is to simplify our lives to be focused on what is most important to us and disregard those that only distracts us. As the saying goes, less is more.
7. Read As Much As Possible
Books are a great way for us to increase our knowledge of the world and to make sense of what is going on around us so we can make better decisions. It will help you to cultivate a good mindset and exercise those creative brain muscles. All of the 'Greats' attributed their success to reading a ton of books during their lifetime.
Without health, there is only so much value you can create for the world. Imagine working overtime for weeks in a row and falling sick at the end of it all. Can you go on? At the end of the day, your health dictates what you can or cannot do. It is the most essential machine you will ever own, and it is your responsibility to keep it in top condition.
9. Be Yourself
Everyone has their own personal perception of the world. Most would consider themselves right, but the truth is that no one is smarter than you. You are uniquely yours and there is never a better time to be genuine about yourself. If there is one thing for sure, we need more genuine people in this world.
10. Be Grateful
The path to success in life does not lay solely on the work you do or the things you own. The successful people in life that I have met over the years have bullet-proof themselves with an antidote known as gratefulness, that rivals even the best medicine. They practice gratefulness every single day to remind themselves about all the great things that are going on in their lives, and to focus less on the few that don't. Be mindful that we tend to spend a lot of our energy on the negative things without realising that there is so much more going for us.